Have you ever heard of FOMO? Or maybe if I say “fear of missing out,” it’ll sound more familiar.
Fear of missing out is something we can all experience easily, especially in a world that feels increasingly chaotic and overwhelming. Let’s take a look at how we can move through each phase of this feeling and find ways to overcome it.
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- Wait, What Even Is FOMO?
- Why Does Everyone Else’s Life Look So Amazing?
- Spotting FOMO When It Sneaks Up on You
- Quick Fixes for Those FOMO Feels
- Loving Your Own Awesome Path
Wait, What Even Is FOMO?
FOMO stands for “Fear of Missing Out”—basically, it’s that anxious feeling you get when you think other people are having amazing experiences and you’re not part of it.
Honestly, I feel like it’s impossible not to feel at least a bit of societal pressure these days. Whether you’re chasing your goals or just living your everyday life, there’s just so much information, so many people, and so much noise coming at you from every direction.
And even when you’re totally aware of FOMO and try to stick to your carefully built routine, sometimes that fear—or even just the idea of missing out—can totally throw you off. It’s wild how quickly you can feel lost or off-track.
It’s funny, isn’t it? There are things we wish for, things we truly believe are meant for us, but somehow the alignment just isn’t there yet. Or maybe, for me, it just feels unbelievably hard to wait for what I want. So trust the process, take the baby steps, and understand that those little steps are actually necessary, even if they’re not glamorous.
Why Does Everyone Else’s Life Look So Amazing?
The worst kind of FOMO usually comes from social media—the “perfect” lives people post about.
Even though we know it’s not always real life, the sparkly filter makes everything look so bright and amazing. It’s easy to start thinking we should have it, too. I mean, don’t we all deserve good things?
Of course we do! But here’s the problem: when we focus on that fear, we lose sight of our own “why.” Our own goals start to blur, and suddenly we want a hundred new things, just because we see them.
And let’s be real, if it’s as easy as those Instagram reels make it look, why shouldn’t I try too?
But then, bit by bit, we forget the real reasons we started in the first place.
Plus, think about how advertisers play on FOMO. They throw out those “limited time only” deals that will “never happen again.” Suddenly, you feel like if you don’t jump on it right now, you’ll miss out forever. That’s how we end up buying things we don’t need or even want, all because of that fear.
Spotting FOMO When It Sneaks Up on You
FOMO doesn’t just get us with stuff—it can also affect our relationships and friendships. Maybe you feel jealous or insecure about what others are doing, or you fall into the trap of “I should be where they are by now.”
That’s classic FOMO. But the real question is: do you actually want that family, that marriage, that relationship—or is it just what you think you should want? Sometimes we even hang out with people we don’t really enjoy, just because we think it might help us someday. All these things? Direct results of FOMO.
Quick Fixes for Those FOMO Feels
Now, of course, we’re going to look at ways to prevent getting sucked into this fear—or even avoid it altogether. But honestly, I’m not sure it’s possible to avoid FOMO completely. Instead, maybe the better question is: how do we spot FOMO when it pops up, and how do we shift our mindset from fear to acceptance, contentment, or even finding joy in the present moment?
Notice Your Triggers: Pay attention to the moments when you start feeling left out. Is it when you scroll through Instagram or hear friends talk about something you missed? Noticing your triggers is the first step.
Limit Social Media: it sounds obvious: if social media gives you FOMO, just put your phone down. But wow, I seriously didn’t expect what a big difference it would make! When I get home from work and skip checking my socials, I actually feel so much more relaxed. I just do my own thing, and my mind feels clearer. No pressure, no comparing—just me, feeling good in my own space.
Practice Gratitude: Whenever I catch myself wishing I was somewhere else, I try to list three things I’m grateful for in my own life. It instantly shifts my focus to what I already have. Again nothing new here but my personal tip is a gratitude journal or this prompts journals. I have my right beside teh bedside tabel and it just makes huge difference when i write thsi 3 simple things i was grateful for today.
Remind Yourself of Your Goals: I like to remind myself that my journey is unique. What matters most is what’s important to me, not what everyone else is doing. And again this is super hard with teh buzz around but never ever if I wanted something and achieved it my journey was teh same as someone else’s. So think about it.
Be Present: I try to enjoy the moment I’m in, even if it’s just a cozy night at home. Sometimes the simplest things end up being the most meaningful.
Talk About It: If FOMO is really bothering me, I talk to a friend about it. Chances are, they’ve felt the same way at some point.
Celebrate Saying ‘No’: I remind myself that saying no to something means I’m saying yes to something else—like rest, self-care, or time for my own hobbies.
Loving Your Own Awesome Path
FOMO is something we all face from time to time. While it can feel uncomfortable, simply recognizing it gives you the power to shift your perspective. There are countless ways to release negative energy and invite positivity into your life.
Sometimes the simplest moments are the most meaningful. Enjoy being present and celebrate saying ‘no’—it means saying ‘yes’ to something else, like rest, self-care, or your own hobbies. Remember, your journey is yours alone, and there’s so much joy to be found right where you are.
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