Is happiness something that simply happens to you or it’s something you must create for yourself?
How to live a happy life?
You might or might not be surprised by the answer. It is you! I bet there’s plenty different options about a concept of happiness out there but I’m not going to talk about them.
Hello, beautiful souls! Today we’re diving into a topic that’s incredibly dear to my heart – how to live a happy life.
For the longest time, I held onto the belief that happiness was something that simply happened to us, with some people experiencing more of it than others.
However, after going through a significant life change, I came to a profound realization: happiness wasn’t just randomly occurring in my life. Instead, it was a direct result of my actions, thoughts, feelings, and the understanding that life doesn’t just happen to me – I play an active role in shaping it.
So, this begs the question: Is happiness merely a state of mind, or do we need to consciously work at cultivating it in our lives?
Buckle up, because we’re about to go on a journey of game-changing insights that I can’t wait to share with you!
Let’s begin by defining what happiness truly means.
It’s not about maintaining a constant smile or pretending everything is perfect all the time. Genuine happiness runs much deeper – it’s about feeling content, fulfilled, and at peace with yourself and your life.
This is something I’ve struggled with so many times during different seasons of my life. Just because you know what happiness is, doesn’t mean it’ll magically appear. Going through tough times, I realized this wasn’t how I wanted to live or feel. It wasn’t me, it wasn’t my energy, and it definitely wasn’t the life I wanted. That moment changed everything for me.
You need to have this kind of wake-up call to find the courage to work on your own happiness. It’s when you realize that you’re the CEO of your life, the master of your mind, and the only one who can write your story. “Life happens for me” became my mantra, and I never looked back. It’s all about taking control and making your happiness a priority.
The source of your happiness is always you.
Let me share some game-changers that shifted my perspective and helped me build my own happiness:
Find your purpose
Finding my purpose was a total game-changer for me.
When you figure out your “why” and start living in line with your values, it’s like everything just falls into place. You feel more fulfilled, more driven, and yeah, way happier.
But listen, I’m not talking about the usual stuff like becoming a millionaire, owning a house, running a company, or even getting hitched and starting a family. I mean that deep-down purpose that’s been hiding in your heart.
Maybe you’ve known it your whole life, or maybe, like me, you’ll discover it later after going through a major transformation and spending countless hours diving into books, podcasts, and courses. The timing doesn’t matter.
If you take away just one thing from this article, make it this: uncovering and chasing your purpose is the secret sauce for a fulfilling and happy life.
It’s not just about ticking boxes or meeting expectations – it’s about living authentically and doing what lights you up inside. Trust me, once you find that purpose, everything else starts to make sense.
Strengthen your relationships
Living a happy life means surrounding yourself with people who light you up inside. Trust me, I’ve learned the hard way that not all relationships are worth holding onto. Focus on those connections where you can be 100% yourself – you know, the ones where you feel like you could conquer the world together? Those are the gold nuggets.
Look, maintaining strong relationships takes work, but it’s so worth it.
Don’t waste your energy on people who drain you, make you feel small or don’t invest in the relationship as much as you.
Instead, pour your heart into the friendships that inspire you and push you to be your best self.
And hey, if you’re thinking “But I don’t have those people in my life yet!” – don’t stress. They’ll show up when the time’s right.
For now, just focus on being present and enjoying the moment. That’s more than enough, I promise.
Remember, life’s too short to spend it with people who don’t make your soul sing. Choose your tribe wisely, and watch how it transforms your happiness. You’ve got this!
One authentic connection can spark more joy and growth in your life than a sea of shallow relationships ever could.
Guilt is not helping
Let’s face it, we’ve all felt guilty at some point. Maybe it’s for something we did, or didn’t do. Not spending enough time with family, telling a white lie, or countless other reasons. Feeling guilty is as natural as making mistakes. But here’s the thing – dwelling on guilt won’t help you grow. The only thing that’ll grow is the guilt itself.
So, what can you do?
1. Own your part in the mistake. Even if someone’s hurt feelings aren’t entirely your fault, you likely played a role. Take responsibility for that.
2. Learn and improve. Use the experience to do better next time.
3. Move forward. Don’t let past guilt hold you back from future growth.
Remember, we’ve all made mistakes we once felt guilty about. Now it’s up to you – what will you do with that guilt from here on out?
Do better in the future to feel better about your past.
Self worth never been more important
Let’s start with a powerful mantra: You are worthy just as you are.
Simple, right? Yet we often undermine our worth daily.
Why? It’s not that we don’t believe in ourselves. Sometimes, our self-esteem is sky-high. But self-worth? That’s a different thing.
It’s self-worth that stops you from applying for your dream job, thinking “There’s no way I’m the best candidate.” It’s what holds you back from launching a blog, whispering “Who am I to share my thoughts with the world?” You might believe in yourself, but deep down, you feel unworthy.
I love what Jamie Kern Lima says about this “I’m not worthy” self-talk. She calls it a myth, a lie. You’re not crazy for dreaming big – you’re just first. Let that sink in: you’re just first. Read or listen Jamie’s book Worthy!
Think about it. Sure, someone might’ve already written a book, launched a beauty line, or done whatever it is you’re dreaming of. But guess what? No one’s done it your way. Why? Because there’s only one you.
Your unique perspective, experiences, and voice make you worthy.
Your self-worth isn’t determined by external validation or comparison to others. It’s about recognizing your intrinsic value as a human being.
So, next time self-doubt creeps in, remember: You’re not just worthy – you’re irreplaceable. Your worth isn’t earned; it’s inherent. Embrace it, own it, and let it guide you towards the life you deserve.
Healthy boundaries shouldn’t be a surprise
Let’s talk about healthy boundaries – a crucial element for a happy life. Don’t allow others to define your worth or identity, and don’t waste energy trying to change their opinions about you.
It won’t happen, and honestly, you change their views by how you act and present yourself anyway.
My absolute favorite thing, something I’ve carried with me forever, is this: you matter, and what you think of yourself matters. No one else’s opinion really does.
Now, don’t mix this up with being cocky or arrogant. It’s not about “I don’t care what you think.” It’s more like, “I hear you, I respect your view, but I won’t let it mess with me.” The moment I started living like this, I felt so much lighter and freer.
Another key aspect of boundaries is saying ‘no’ to things you simply don’t want to do.
Whether it’s declining drinks with colleagues or turning down invitations from friends or family, it’s not selfish – it’s self-care. Many people complain about spending time in ways they didn’t want to, but remember: it was their choice.
Remember, it’s never too late to start living your life fully. That’s the key to a happy life – being true to yourself and your boundaries.
Trust your intuition
Logic doesn’t always cut it here; intuition is that gut feeling, that inner voice that’s been put in your heart for a reason.
It’s like having a secret superpower, but don’t think it’s all smooth sailing.
Tapping into your intuition requires some serious work, but trust me, it feels so damn good when you get it right.
Here’s the kicker: just because you’re following your intuition doesn’t mean everything’s gonna be easy and flowy.
It’s hard work, and it can be confusing as hell, especially when you’re making big decisions. You might feel torn, unsure, or even scared. And if you’re new to embracing your intuition, you might feel lured back into the well-known. But don’t give up just yet; that’s all part of the process.
Your intuition isn’t about making things easy; it’s about guiding you towards what’s truly right for you, even if that path is challenging.
Remember, your intuition is like a muscle – the more you use it, the stronger it gets. So don’t get discouraged if it feels tough at first. Keep at it, listen to that inner voice, and watch how it transforms your life. It’s all about trusting yourself and embracing the journey, bumps and all. Listen to a great talk from The Rise & Conquer podcast here.
These were the most transformative and effective tools that totally worked for me and got me on track to living a happy life. Hopefully you can use them and see the magic happen in your own world too.
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